It's amazing how every discussion I have had in the last few days has come down to the same topic - relationships. No matter how we start a discussion - music, drinks or French, in the end, it all boils down to "louv". The last few days of interaction with some friends left me wondering - what are we looking for in a relationship? Those who've had painful break-ups long to meet the person meant for them, those who've been with just one person for ever long to make mistakes. Those not in a relationship are looking for one while those in a relationship want to get out. There's a concern cynics like me have always had. How do u know it's the right person? Do violins start playing when you meet that person, or does Cupid whisper in your ear "This is it!". If something like this actually happens, why isn't this information widely disseminated by those who've experienced this? I guess even they're having their share of sadistic pleasure at our expense.
Why do we want to get into a relationship anyways? I guess because we've been programmed to believe that we need to be with someone. There could be hundreds of reasons - we could need financial/emotional security, or our parents could want the assurance that their children are happily settled. Whatever it is, everyone is supposed to reach this Holy Grail some day. There is a category of people who always seek perfection, in whatever they do - acads, profession, extra-currics, we have to be the best in every damn thing. And people like us also see lots of these movies and series where everything is perfect. I agree the protagonists have to go through a lot of emotional turmoil - working out solutions to their differences, dealing with villians and uncooperative parents, and so on. But in the end everything works out, and they live happily ever after. These movies become our benchmark for the perfect relationships. Even though these movies span several years of our heroes'/heroines' lives, we go through that in less than 3 hours. Isn't it obvious for us to expect our lives to run in the same fast-forward? Just like in professional life, we also want to "arrive" as early as possible. That it could take us 2-3 years rather than 2-3 hours is difficult for us to digest.
And once we've "arrived"... What after that? Is there ever a point when one reaches a stable equilibrium? When your desire to break free equals the sense of satisfaction you derive from being around your significant other. What about people like me - Who fiercely guard their independence, ferociously fight not to give up their territory (better known as personal space)? Is it possible for us to make compromises and give up things after so many years of staying on our own and shielding ourselves from the "bad" world? Restless people like me get bored of things too soon and need a change from time to time. Is it really possible for me to spend my whole life with the same person? Well, I guess this is where my MBA would come in. Maybe because of the hectic professional life my "life partner" and I will have, it'll be easier not to get bored. After all, if you don't spend too much time with someone, you wouldn't get bored. Right? This might make it possible for me to spend the whole of my life with one single person. Although, the nomadic life I see in front of me might not deserve to be called "settling down", I guess it'll have to do!! :D
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